Unitarian Universalist Society of Northern Fairfield County,

9 Picketts Ridge Road, West Redding, CT

The Rev. Dr. Daniel Simer Ó Connell, Minister

October 1997


The office key is gone from its usual not-so-secret place in the Buildings and Grounds mailbox. The photocopy machine has been moved, the Collymore room painted, and some of our signs have changed. Egad! Is this part of some diabolical plot?

I wish I could tell you that all this has happened through a well-planned, thoroughly publicized agenda of change implemented in stages as we make our way from caterpillar to butterfly on the way from a "pastoral" church to a "program". I wish I could tell you that, but the part about "thoroughly publicized" would definitely not be true. To set this in context, please see the sidebar on church characteristics (please see the cream colored insert) based on weekly worship service attendance.

We feel the rough spots in such our church growth in many little ways. For example, in the transition from a family church to a pastoral church, someone other than Abigail may wish to do the landscaping. A newcomer can't understand why Charlene always plays the same hymns. Bill wonders who all these strangers are in his church. With more than 50 people on a Sunday morning, you can't know everyone as well as you used to. Some people have crazy religious beliefs, too.

The very things that made for a good family church - inside jokes, very informal meetings and services, identification of certain roles with certain leaders - turn out to be the things that get in the way of welcoming newcomers. Attendance can dip back down, and things can get back to "normal" again (except for the loss of people and energy to do the work of the church).

The next transition - from pastoral to program church - is generally acknowledged to be the most difficult. This is, of course, the transition we find ourselves in. One key set of changes we are negotiating at present is the transition in the style of planning and implementation. A family or pastoral church welcomes complete spontaneity, decision by fiat, and the "lone ranger" attitude. The Board of Trustees "manages" day to day affairs.

The program church by contrast, requires coordination of efforts, and it means empowering and resourcing (rather than managing) staff, lay leaders, and committees. The Board considers policy, it is the staff and committees which who are empowered to do the work of the church.

This means fewer lone rangers and more planning. It also means we can bring more resources to bear and get a lot more done. It means new friends, and it means change. It means it is a dangerous time: we might be successful!


President's Letter

by Bob Weston

Fall is my favorite season, and October is my favorite month. I love sunny, warm days melded with cool, dry nights. Bright splashes of earthy colors gush through my somewhat colorblind eyes and my thoughts get swept along in nature's final torrent of beauty. Something about October evokes for me thoughts of the Universalist side of our Unitarian-Universalism. This is the time of year that the Universalist farmers of 150 years or so ago gathered in their harvests and could catch their collective breath and count their blessings. In the generosity of nature I believe they found an intimation of the generosity of their God, who offered salvation to all. This belief was revolutionary when it first arose and the antipodes of Calvinist salvation for only the elect (epitomized by Cotton Mather's famous sermon, "Sinners in the Hand of an Angry God"). At its height, Universalism was estimated to be the fifth largest denomination in America. Universal salvation was part of the ideological fuel for the social reform movements beginning in the 1800's. Enormous changes occurred in attitudes toward and treatment of children, the poor, those with mental illness, minorities, women, etc. Social reform is our continuing legacy today. October provides opportunities to act on our beliefs through upcoming marches in support of equality for gay, lesbian and bisexual minorities. Extra hands are always welcome at the Dorothy Day Hospitality House to prepare and serve meals on first Saturdays. The Shelter needs staffing by a man and a woman volunteer from our Society one night monthly. In addition, there will be a candlelight parade toward the end of the month to support individuals living with HIV/AIDS, their families and friends. Yes, in October nature reveals her generosity. Let all of us reveal our generosity by supporting our neighbors.

The Board received an excellent and through presentation by the membership committee in August for a systematic ad campaign to run from September to December. It was approved enthusiastically at the September meeting. This represents the first time that the Society has attempted to attract new members with a photo/text series of ads (created for local congregations by the UUA). I believe an effective part of the campaign is that the ads will be located outside of the usual religion page areas. I saw the first one running in the News Times on 9/12 - "Instead of me fitting a religion, I found a religion to fit me." I expect that these ads in local papers will be yet another avenue for attracting new members. Kudos to the membership committee!

Kudos also to RE chair, Sue Tarshis, to RE Director, Karen Judd, and to RE committee members and teachers for getting double services RE off to a roaring start - AMAZING!!!

On a sadder note, long time Board member Doug Miller has decided to resign, and the Board accepted his decision with regret. Doug's thoughtfulness, wit and playful good humor will be missed greatly. Doug has served and continues to serve the Society in many ways. I am particularly appreciative of his long-standing devotion to the religious education of our children. Thank-you, Doug.

News & Notes from the DRE

by Karen Judd, Director of Religious Education


Thank you to the Senior High Youth Group and their advisors, Trish and Russ Simon, for painting the purple walls and ceiling of the Collymore Room a cheerful white. It is now a reading/library room and a meeting room for the Youth Group and other groups. Thank you to Trish for her donation of a coffee table and other items that create an inviting and warm atmosphere in the room

Thank you to Daniela Sikora and Keitha Kinne for their contribution of beads and craft sticks.

Thank you to Mala Ranade for her donation of the book, Free and Almost Free Things for Teachers, which lists and describes over 250 educational resources.

Thank you to Karen Reed for her donation of the book, Children Just Like Me, by Barnabas and Anabel Kindersley in conjunction with UNICEF. This book will be a helpful resource in the Third and Fourth Grade Class to supplement their curriculum, Holidays and Holy Days.

Saturday, October 18, is the date for the RE Party for all RE teachers, Youth Group advisors and their significant other or guest and is given by the RE Committee. Mark the date on your calendar. Invitations will go out shortly.

Sunday, October 26, is Children's and Youth Chapels. Children in the Pre-first through Sixth Grade begin in the Barn as usual and after the song, This Little Light of Mine, proceed over to the Founder's House, where they will remain as a group and will have their worship service followed by a children's version of coffee hour. We will have two Children's Chapels on this day, one for the 9:00 a.m. session and one for the 11:00 a.m. session.

The Youth Chapel Service starts at 9:00 a.m. The youth will go directly to their worship service.

Adult RE

Adult Religious Education brochures, containing detailed information about courses, are now available in the Adult RE pamphlet rack next to the Barn entrance. If you would like one mailed to you, please call me. You may and register for any of these classes with the enclosed Adult RE program flyer.

Courses featured this fall are:

Sacred Story/Our Story

Inner Bonding

Effectiveness Training for Women

On the Path, Spirituality for Adults

Building Your Own Theology I

Parent Effectiveness Training

Death and Dying

Introduction to Meditation

An Exploration for Masculine Spirituality

I am planning the Spring '98 Adult RE Program. If you have an interest in planning, leading or co-leading a class or workshop, or have ideas about courses you would like to participate in, please let me know.

It would be really wonderful if our UU Society could have an up and functioning Adult RE Committee by December of this year. Maybe there are others who share this vision. and would like to make it a reality.

In closing, I would like to remind people that this is the beginning of a new year with many changes. I hope that during this transitional process we can be patient, flexible, kind, creative and honest with ourselves and others.


If anyone has an audio tape machine in good working condition we could surely use it. One of the machines we have been using for years has begun to eat up the tapes and can no longer be used.

New from RE - A Newsletter

Each month a Religious Education Newsletter will be available in the wall rack upstairs in the Barn. This RE newsletter will give a brief synopsis of what each class will be covering for that month, along with the Sharing Circle monthly theme.

Book Discussion Group

The Book Discussion Group will meet on Sunday, October 26, at 11:00 a.m. upstairs in Founder's House. All are welcome. We will be discussing Yellow Raft on Blue Water by Michael Dorris. Call Jane Leff for information.

Celebrating 175 Years

by Daniela Sikora

I had a chance to look at some of the fabric squares submitted for our Society's Anniversary Quilt. I was astounded by the level of care and thought, both creative and emotional, that was put into each selection. That box of squares is yet another example of how we as a community not only rise to the occasion, we soar above all expectations.

This is a year to celebrate our past accomplishments, remember those who brought us this far and trumpet to the community our future vision. We have so much to be proud of! We have contributed hundreds of hours of work to the Dorothy Day Soup Kitchen and Shelter, Habitat for Humanity and other worthwhile causes. We have provided books for children, scholarships for youth and food to the needy. We deserve a pat on the back.

Our year of celebrations will begin with a special service on Sunday, December 7. The service is still a work in progress, but you can bet it'll be a good one. So far, other planned events include a four-concert Sunday afternoon music series beginning in January and gala choral festival in May, Amy Gallatin will bring her band back, our quilt will be dedicated, and the book of our Society's history will be released.

Every month, Comment will include a celebration update as well as a needs list for upcoming events. The needs lists will include calls for help with ideas and event staffing, materials, requests for help from people with specific skills, etc. The name of the contact person for the event will be also listed. You are encourages to check out the needs list and find out how you can help. Be bold!! Get involved!!

Our goal is that every committee and group of our Society be represented and honored in some way during the coming year. Below is a list of some possible events that your committee or you as a member or friend might want to organize. These are just examples for you to take and run with. My job is to coordinate the events for the year and to help as needed. Please note that your event is your event.

I challenge everyone in this community, no matter how long you've been with us, to contribute your "idea squares" to our quilt of celebrations. We'll sew things up together.

We would like to get the year's calendar in place as soon as possible so that a cohesive and comprehensive marketing plan can be created. Please let me know by October 30 how you or your committee would like to be involved in this exciting year.

175th Anniversary Needs List

The Membership Committee is organizing a monthly collection of 175 things for various charitable groups throughout Fairfield County. This month they are collecting 175 food items. They need 11 more categories and information on charitable groups in the area that might benefit (i.e. 175 cupcakes for Meals-On-Wheels, 175 sheets of sheetrock for Habitat for Humanity, etc.) Contact Bobbi Teagarden

We need a logo for the 175th Anniversary to be used on all 175th correspondence, programs, etc. Contact Daniela Sikora.

Event Ideas

A juried art exhibit of area artists, maybe themed (Justice, Tolerance)

A themed film series. We have at our disposal a local theater, 16mm film equipment and sources for political, foreign and specialty films. This could be combined with discussion after the films with invited guests.

A formal dinner dance for the grown-ups; a dance party for the youth,

175 hours of care for our own. This program would have us help those in our community with some of the things they might not be able to do anymore - chores, painting an apartment, fixing a leaky faucet, etc.

175 hours of care for others. Maybe repainting the shelter, reading to the blind or elderly, tutoring children, sponsoring a special program of the alternative high school . . . the possibilities (and spiritual rewards) are endless!

If you can help organize and execute any of these events, or have ideas of your own PLEASE CALL Daniela! We have a little money, a lot of enthusiasm and a ton of faith. Time to start 'quilting!'

ARC Annual Meeting

ARC (Greater Danbury's Association of Religious Communities) will hold its Annual Meeting on Sunday , October 19, at 3:30 p.m. at the United Methodist Church on Clapboard Ridge Road, Danbury. They will explore the area's diverse ministries and potential ministries for the coming year. If you would like more information or would like to attend, please call Bill McWilliams.

Board of Trustees Notes

by Joanne Davidson

The Board of Trustees had their regular monthly meeting on Sept. 17. At that meeting the Board regretfully accepted Doug Miller's resignation and expressed deep appreciation for his years of service. Doug Parkhurst was chosen as vice-president. The following people were appointed committee chairs: Rita O'Donnell & Ruth Aptaker, co-chairs, Caring Committee; Sue Tarshis, Religious Education; Mala Ranade, Sunday Services; Kim Schmitt and Judy Teagarden, co-chairs, Membership; Ross Fenster and Lynn Smith, co-chairs, Finance; Jean Renjilian, Denominational Affairs. The Board set the date and time of October 26th, 12:30 p.m. for a Congregational Meeting to nominate and vote on the new Nominating Committee. Progress is being made toward finding a tenant for the Founder's House to replace Landmark Academy. The Membership Committee was applauded for its hard work and excellent recommendations and it was unanimously voted that they implement their plans for advertising as presented in their Membership Acquisition Action Plan. Mimi Davisson, Membership liaison, informed the Board that the committee had voted to protect confidentiality by deleting "Wheel of Life" information and personal phone numbers from Comment before putting it on the Internet. Daniela Sikora asks that any committee planning an event to celebrate our 175th anniversary please let her know so that events can be coordinated.

175th Anniversary Quilt News

by Karen Lowry Reed

We have a wonderful collection of pieces for our commemorative quilt - many thanks to all of you who brought yours in September! As we spread the pieces out this past Sunday, we decided we need MORE PIECES!!! We can either "fill in" with pieces from our own fabric stashes or we can come back to all of you and ask again. WE WANT YOURS! If you have not yet contributed a piece, please DO. The quilt's richness depends on a wide variety of contributions. Please check out the pieces we have received so far, you will see that there are many ways to do a piece. PLEASE DO NOT BE INTIMIDATED! If you would just like to bring a swatch , we can cut it out for you. If you've not quite made the deadline, rededicate yourself, it's been extended! Please get your pieces to us as soon as possible.

On Sunday, November 2 we will have another meeting of the committee at 12:30 when the sewing will begin.

Questions?? Call Karen Lowry Reed or Marcia Brooker.

Goods and Services Auction

by Lynn Taborsak

It's fall and a nip is in the air. That can only mean one thing! It's time for the Barn's annual Goods and Services Auction. This year the auction will be held on Saturday, November 1st. Tickets will once again be $3.00 per person and child care will be provided at the Founder's House. You must sign up for child care by October 26th.

All members and friends are asked to donate a service or any new, used or handmade item in good condition that you would be willing to buy yourself. Donated items should be clean, wrapped or boxed and "auction ready". Categories can include food, tickets, furniture, jewelry, novelties, equipment, artwork, vacations and trips. Take a look at last year's auction catalog during coffee hour for more suggestions.

Popular services from past auctions include home repairs, computer programming, planting fall bulbs, house cleaning and baby sitting.

Please complete an auction contract for each item or service that you are willing to donate and return it to the Auction Committee by OCTOBER 5th. You must give an estimated value for your donation and state a minimum acceptable bid.

Fund-raising Opportunities:

We are also looking for new members for the Fundraising Committee who can make a commitment to work on at least one of our fundraising events: Cook Book Sales, Holiday Wreaths, Poinsettia Sales, the Amy Gallatin Concert and other activities.

Please don't be shy. We will welcome you with open arms.

The Mini-Book Sale Continues

Every Sunday the Fund-raising Committee holds a mini-book sale near the Barn entrance. We could use some fresh faces on the book sale shelf. Recently published books in excellent condition are needed. - the type that will sell quickly. Thank you.

Investment Club

The long awaited Investment Club will hold its first meeting on Sunday, October 6 at 12:30 p.m. in the Barn Keitha Kinne will lead the group.

Open Door Alliance

by Fred Hammond, Group Facilitator

The Open Door Alliance is an ad hoc group of Society members and friends formed to address the following topics: our own homophobia, racism and diversity issues, social issues in our schools including support of the LesBiGay group known as 'Outright,' and censorship by local media. Its purpose is to educate, nurture a safe place for discussion and plan activities to present to the congregation.

Isn't it rich? Isn't it Queer?" I thought it appropriate to open this month's column with these words because October is after all Queer History Month. Some of you may be more comfortable with the term Gay, Lesbian, Bi-sexual, Transgendered, Transsexual History Month, but I prefer the term Queer.

The word queer in the Webster Dictionary states: "Slang: homosexual; bad, worthless, or counterfeit."

One out of every three teenage suicides is directly linked to struggles with their sexuality in a society that states homosexuals are bad. Therefore, it is important for sexual minorities to know who in the past was gay. The following not only contributed to their society, they were also gay: Emperor Alexander the Great; Artisans Michaelangelo and Leonardo DaVinci; Writers Walt Whitman and James Baldwin; First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt; Playwright Larry Kramer; Singer Janis Ian; and Actor Rock Hudson.

Open Door Alliance will be hosting a Sunday Service to commemorate Queer History Month October 26, 1997.

Coffee Hour

Two Sunday morning services mean double the coffee hours! We have volunteers for most of the Sunday morning coffee hours through the end of 1997! Volunteers make coffee and provide baked goods - one or two people are needed for each service. The few openings we have are on Nov 9 &16, Dec. 21 & 28. Check the sign-up sheet the next time you're at the Barn.

Unitarian Universalist Service Committee

by Leslie Bent

Promise Connecticut's Children (PCC) exists to help Unitarian Universalists in Connecticut as we help children in the larger community, providing a network of connections among thirteen congregations so we can share information and experiences, providing coordination as we speak with lawmakers about our concerns.

In 1992 Connecticut's UU congregations formed their first network. In April 1994, I attended a meeting in Meriden where representatives from several churches met to share how their congregations were supporting families and children in poverty. Some had mentoring programs in impoverished schools; some worked at homeless shelters; Westport held a dress-for-success clothing drive where they collected clothing that would be suitable for job interviews.

In 1997, there has been a focus on advocacy. Marsha Brown, one of PCC's coordinators has had the time to follow legislation pertaining to children as passed by the Connecticut General Assembly in its 1997 session.

UUSC puts a high priority on advocacy as well as service to people. By advocacy they "mean efforts to change policies and practices that hurt people and violate their basic human rights." UUSC goes directly to the US Congress and State Legislatures to argue for policies and priorities that will protect the poorest and the most vulnerable. Often UU members, individuals and congregations are asked to speak out on public issues.

Members and friends of the Barn can show support for UUSC, PCC and Connecticut's children in need by attending the PCC Fall Focus meeting on October 25, 9:00 a.m. at the Universalist Society in West Hartford. Nancy Kerenski, co-chair of the Select Committee on Children from the Connecticut State Legislature is the guest speaker.

If you would like more details, please call Leslie Bent

New Donor Telephone Canvass

During October and November, all Unitarian Universalists who have not previously given directly to the UUA will be contacted by telephone and be asked to become a Friend of UUA. UU members will receive a letter from Friends of UUA prior to the phone canvass. Last year 7,200 UU households joined the Friends of UUA. The UUA depends on Friends for 10% of its yearly budget and considers these contributions a critical part of UUA's well-being.

Metro District Announcement

by Betty Lewis

The women of the UU Metro District are doing it again!

What, you ask??? Well . . . something they've been doing around this time of year since the UU's merged in 1961 . . . having their "Fall Renewal Weekend!"*

This time it is jointly presented by both the UUWA and the Women and religion Committee of the Metro District.

Title: "Celebrate the Seasons of a Woman's Life Through the Arts." The featured facilitator will guide an intensive writing workshop. There will be Yoga in the morning, and much, much more.

Place: Episcopal Conference Center, Ivoryton, CT.

Date: October 17 -19.

I've attended a couple of dozen of these Renewals over the years, and I recommend them highly. I had the privilege of facilitating a Renewal some years ago, back when I was president of the Metro District UUWA Board. Then, coincidentally, I used excerpts from the course in Effectiveness Training for Women which I will be teaching this fall under the auspices of the Adult RE Committee.

For more information about the UUWA weekend, see the announcement on the Denominational Affairs Bulletin Board and /or call me.

*Prior to the merger, it was called a "Retreat." But UU women never retreat. So now it is a Renewal!

Northern Area Council

by Mike Searing

Circle the date of October 25 - the NAC is planning an exciting conference on "Enhancing You Congregation," at the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of the Catskills in Kingston, NY. There will be a seminar, "How to Maintain a Caring and Safe Congregation - Creating a Sacred Space," by our own Jean Renjilian, who is a member of the Safe Congregation Team. Rodney Wells, President of Rock Tavern Congregation, will talk about "Reasonable Promotion of Unitarian Universalism through National Public Radio." In the afternoon Carla Iverson of the Unitarian Church of Westport will discuss "Who is a leader Anyway?"

Look for flyers from NAC in the Barn. Registration is $5. Registration is at 9:30 a.m. and the program begins at 10:00 and ends at 3:00. Bring your own bag lunch - beverages will be provided. Call Barbara or Mike Searing or Jean Renjilian for directions or carpooling.

The NGO Connection

by Doris Henderson, UU-UNO Envoy, Denominational Affairs

From September 10 through 12, the United Nations held its 50th annual NGO (non-governmental organizations) conference at UN Headquarters in New York. Attended by 2245 persons, representing 637 organizations from 67 countries - groups as varied as the Union of Concerned Scientists, the Campaign for the Earth, Rotary International, and the Unitarian Universalist Association.

As Kofi Annan, the new UN Secretary General, pointed out, the relationship of NGO's to the UN has been "transformed beyond all recognition" since we came on board in 1947. Then, the sovereign nations were the actors; NGO's played a merely supportive role. Today NGO's are involved in policy making, preventive diplomacy, humanitarian work, and building democratic coalitions throughout the world. Our UUA has recently acquired advisory status on the Economic and Social Council (ECOSOC), giving us greater input in decision-making.

The Secretary General's reform plan was recently presented to the UN for debate. In addition to the expected streamlining and cost-cutting, Mr. Annan is proposing something new: a "People's Assembly," counterpart to the existing General Assembly. The new body would represent the civil society, rather than national governments. The idea was popular in the NGO community. "Nations were built on war," remarked Cora Weiss of the International Peace Bureau; "only a people's group such as this can bring peace."

NGO's are concerned about the United States current reliance on NATO as an instrument of foreign policy, and its neglect of the United Nations. NATO was never intended to deal with the kinds of problems facing the world today: the proliferation of weapons of mass destruction; the globalization of organized crime, drug trafficking, and child prostitution; the spread of hunger and disease; the inadequacy of environmental regulation in a global economy. Only a strong UN, with American support and commitment, can address these issues. Yet the Senate Foreign Relations Committee continues to block payment of US dues to the UN, and an apathetic public allows this to happen. Other affluent nations have shown a similar complacency about the world body. A British delegate from the World Bank organization summed it up this way:

"The United Nations is like an old dog. Keep him around the house; for God's sake don't let him get on the furniture. Some day he will bark and alert to a fire in the house, and maybe then you'll recognize his worth!"

May we recognize it now, before it's too late.

Wheel of Life

by Mimi Davisson

Remember folks if you need meals, child care, respite, transportation, errands, visits, a phone call, or other item to help the wheels of your life move on, call on someone from the Caring Committee (we have red 's on our nametags) and we will round up some friendly assistance. During the month of September please contact Bobbi Teagarden if you know of someone in need of Caring Committee attention.

Volunteers needed:

Help Build a More Caring Community.

Your Caring Committee needs you to serve as a coordinator for one month. Volunteers will make phone calls to arrange caring activities for Society members and friends. We also need people to provide meals once, occasionally, or regularly. Please call the Society office (438-4281).

Photo Directory

If you did not have your photo taken and would like to have a picture in the directory,

please call Jane Leff or Donna Lawrence ASAP.

It can be done!!

Sunday Morning Schedule

8:00 Meditation Group

8:30 Nursery Attendant Arrives

Choir warm-up; 1st & 3rd Sundays Of Month

9:00 First Service Begins

9:15 Children Leave For Their Classes

9:15 - 9:30 Children's Sharing Circle

9:30 - 10:30 Children's RE Classes

10:30 Coffee Hour Begins

10:45 Sanctuary Set-Up; Service leave-taking

11:00 Second Service Begins

11:15 Children Leave For Their Classes

11:15 - 11:30 Children's Sharing Circle

11:30 - 12:30 Children's RE Classes

12:30 Coffee Hour Begins

12:45 Final Clean-Up

1:00 Nursery Attendant Leaves

Comment is the newsletter of the Unitarian Universalist Society of Northern Fairfield County, 9 Picketts Ridge Road, West Redding, CT 06896. Phone: 203-438-4281. Articles may be emailed to Ellen at or dropped off at the Society office. Articles should be 250 words or less. Deadline for the November Comment is Monday, October 20.

Minister Dr. Daniel Simer Ó Connell 438-2534 (O)


President Bob Weston


Director RE Karen Judd

Secretary Ellen Shepheard 438-4281 (O)


The Society office is open from 9:30 -12:30 MWF.

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October Sunday Services: 9:00 & 11:00 a.m.

October 5, 1997. Pulpit Exchange with the Rev. Charlie Ortman.. His title is On a Wing and a Prayer. Charlie told me "I think people should go to church for the worship experience, not for the worship topic." While Charlie is here, I'll be in Montclair, preaching there.

October 12, 1997. While We Were Sleeping: The Pace of Technology. This is the second in a series of services on contemporary liberal religious ethics. We will look at the problem of making ethical decisions in an age where the speed of technological change is faster than our ability to comprehend its ramifications. Today is also the first Newcomer Orientation, to be held at 1 p.m. at the Founder's House.

October 19, 1997. The Creation of Value: Employees and Stockholders. This is the third in a series of services on contemporary liberal religious ethics. We will look at why corporations were originally set up in New England and new developments in business ethics from a liberal religious viewpoint. Today is also the second Newcomer Orientation.

October 26, 1997. Open Door Alliance Service. Today is the third Newcomer Orientation. Congregational Meeting after the second service.

November 2, 1997. All Soul's Day. Today we look at the one topic we dread the most: death. We will recall our dead husbands, wives, children, relatives, and spiritual ancestors. In the midst of death we will say no to death and yes to life. We will install our Caring Committee today and have the fourth and final Newcomer Orientation.

November 9, 1997. The King and the Magician: Congregational Polity. We will look at the tension between the needs of the many and the needs of the one, and I will lay out what I consider to be the Unitarian Universalist theology. We will celebrate new members at our New Member Ingathering today.

Fall Adult Religious Education Programs

Sacred Story/Our Story is given by Sara Miller, a professional storyteller and children's literature specialist. This class is an opportunity to explore ways to understand and express your own personal stories through finding the myths and fairy tales that resonate for you and to clarify their meanings. Tues., Oct. 14, 21, 28; 7:30 - 9:30; Upstairs Founder's House

Inner Bonding is given by Nancy Weston who is a professional teacher and has been trained directly by Dr. Margaret Paul in the six-step psycho-spiritual healing process that fosters integration among all aspects of the self by developing a loving adult to work with the inner child of the wounded self. Sat., Oct. 12; 9:30 a.m. to 5:00 p.m., Upstairs Founder's House

Effectiveness Training for Women is a course which focuses on communication skills, conflict resolution, assertiveness skills, anxiety reduction and goal setting. This course is taught by Betty H. Lewis, who is a trained Effectiveness Training Instructor. Begins Tues. Oct. 21 (10 weeks); 8:00 - 10:00 p.m.; Betty Lewis' Studio,

On the Path, Spirituality for Adults is being led by Karen S. Judd, Director of Religious Education and Doug Parkhurst, who has a BA in History and taught at local secondary schools for six years. In this class participants will explore the nature and meaning of spirituality in their lives. Thurs.10/23, 10/30, 11/6, 11/13, 11/20, 12/4; 7:30 -9:30, FH

Building Your Own Theology I's central purpose is to create a community context in which individuals can create their own credos. Co-leaders will be announced. Late October (4 sessions) Dates TBA.

Parent Effectiveness Training is taught by Betty H. Lewis, a certified Parent Effectiveness Trainer who has over 17 years of experience teaching the course. This course will teach you specific skills that will help you to communicate and listen more effectively in a style that's neither permissive nor authoritarian. Begins Thurs. Oct. 23; 8:00 -10:00 p.m. (10 weeks).

Death and Dying is a two-part workshop. The first workshop is led by the Rev. Bonnie Vegiard, the Extension Minister at the Mattatuck Unitarian Universalist Society. This workshop emphasizes self-reflection, with limited discussion. The second workshop addresses the more practical issues of living wills and the durable power of attorney for health care. This material will be covered via the video, Who's Death Is It Anyway? Facilitator to be announced. Sat. 11/8 & 11/15; 9:00 a.m. - 12:00 p.m., Founder's House, Childcare will be provided.

Introduction to Meditation is being led by Karen Helgesen, a certified Integral Hatha Yoga and Meditation Instructor. This workshop will provide you with the basic knowledge of meditation to get you started in your own practice. Thurs. Nov. 15; 7:00 - 9:00 p.m., Upstairs Founder's House.

An Exploration of Masculine Spirituality will be led by the Rev. Dr. Daniel Ó Connell. who did his doctoral dissertation in the area of masculine spirituality and religious education. The class participants will use myths, personal stories, images, symbols, zen koans and guided meditation as they explore a perspective on what modern masculinity might mean. This class offering is limited to men. Sat., Nov. 15; 9:00 - 3:00; Founder's House

For more detailed information and to register please refer to the Adult RE brochure or call Karen Judd

Adult RE Registration Form

Sacred Story/Our Story $45

Inner Bonding $50

Effectiveness Training for Women $175

On the Path, Spirituality for Adults $20

Building Your Own Theology I $20

Parent Effectiveness Training $175

Death and Dying $15

Introduction to Meditation $15

Exploration of Masculine Spirituality $20

Name _________________________________Address __________________________________

Phone ________________________________

Please return this form to Karen Judd, Unitarian Universalist Society,

9 Picketts Ridge Rd. West Redding, CT 06896.

Please include a check made out to the course instructor